Where the Search work meets you.

What you came here for.

The methodology proceeds from Intent. Pick the closest. You can recalibrate anytime; the methodology meets you where you are.

• Long-Term — A relationship that earns long-term standing.
• Marriage — The relationship that becomes a marriage.
• Fall in Love — The connection that becomes love.
• Casual — A short, honest connection without the long horizon.
• Friendship — Friendship, with the door left open.
• Companionship — Connection that is honest, present, and unhurried.
• Not Sure — Calibrating in progress. The methodology reads uncertainty as data, not deficit.
• Short-Term — An honest read within a shorter arc.
• Open to All — Surface shape from cadence rather than declaring shape ahead of it.

Where the Search work is right now.

The methodology proceeds in five Phases. Pick the one where the work currently meets you.

• Profile — I’m in the work of showing up in full. Interior read of who I am before contact.
• Connection — I’m in the work of mutual opt-in. Both sides walking through; no one-sided swipes.
• Courtship — I’m in the work of cadence with time and intention. Depth surfaces across cycles.
• Commitment — I’m in the work of moving toward the outcome I came here for.
• Ongoing — I’m in the work of living the outcome I’ve built. Sustained relationship cadence.

How you show up in your own profile.

The methodology reads Position Signal as the interior read before contact. Pick the closest read of how your profile presents you right now.

• Full presence — Every part of who I am is in there. The profile reads me clearly.
• Curated presence — Selected aspects are in there; the rest withheld for now.
• Performative presence — Shaped to attract; not a read of who I am.
• Absent presence — I haven’t really filled it out yet.

When you reach out, when you read first.

The methodology reads Position Signal as the cadence between locating yourself and reaching outward. Pick the closest cadence pattern.

• Read first, then contact — I pause to locate before reaching out.
• Contact first, then read — I move outward; locate later.
• Ambient read, no contact — I locate but don’t initiate.
• No read pattern — I act without reading.

Your cadence of self-locating.

The methodology reads Position Signal as the rhythm of how often you check in with yourself during the Search work. Pick the closest cadence.

• Regular cadence — I check in with myself frequently. The read is part of the work.
• Crisis-only cadence — I locate when something disrupts. Otherwise the work continues.
• External-prompted cadence — I locate when prompted by friction or feedback.
• No cadence — I don’t have a self-locating practice yet.

Mutual opt-in, or one-sided pursuit.

The methodology reads Open Signal as the moment both sides walk through. Pick the closest pattern in your recent connections.

• Mutual opt-in observed — I notice when both have walked through.
• One-sided pursuit pattern — I tend to walk through first; others follow or don’t.
• One-sided receipt pattern — Others walk through; I respond or don’t.
• Opt-in invisible — I don’t read the opt-in signal yet.

When the door has opened.

The methodology reads Open Signal as the moment a Connection has actually opened. Pick the closest read.

• Clearly read — I know when the door has opened. The cadence shifts.
• Sometimes read — I read it after the fact; not always at the moment.
• Read by external signal — I rely on explicit messages or ratings to know.
• Not yet readable — The moment doesn’t surface clearly to me yet.

The cadence at the opening.

The methodology reads Open Signal across the cadence pattern of the opening exchange. Pick the closest observation about your typical opening cadence.

• Deliberate cadence — I let the opening surface; I don’t rush.
• Accelerating cadence — I push the cadence forward when interest surfaces.
• Reactive cadence — The cadence depends on the other person’s pace.
• No consistent cadence pattern observed.

Who carries the cadence.

The methodology reads Build Signal as whether the cadence holds without you supplying its momentum. Pick the closest read.

• Cadence holds mutually — The rhythm sustains without me carrying it alone.
• I supply the cadence — When I stop, the cadence stops.
• Other supplies the cadence — When they stop, the cadence stops.
• Cadence not yet observed — Connection hasn’t sustained long enough to read this.

Cycles observed.

The methodology reads Build Signal across two cadence cycles — that’s where truth surfaces. Pick the closest read of where you are.

• Two cycles observed clearly — The methodology has had time to read truth.
• One cycle observed — Early; truth not yet surfaced fully.
• No full cycle observed — Still in opening Phase.
• Cycles unclear — The cadence doesn’t surface in cycles I can read.

Friction or momentum.

The methodology reads Build Signal across the friction-vs-momentum balance. Pick the closest read of your current observation.

• Sustained momentum — The cadence builds; depth surfaces.
• Recurring friction — The cadence stalls; the same friction returns.
• One-time friction resolved — A moment of friction, then continued cadence.
• Friction-momentum-undefined — No clear pattern yet.

The direction the cadence is moving.

The methodology reads Progress Signal as whether the cadence is moving toward what you came here for. Pick the closest read.

• Moving toward — The cadence is taking me toward what I came here for.
• Moving sideways — The cadence sustains but doesn’t deepen toward the outcome.
• Moving backward — The cadence is regressing from prior depth.
• Direction unclear yet — Too early to read direction.

Readiness for the outcome.

The methodology reads Progress Signal across both interior readiness and cadence readiness. Pick the closest read.

• Both ready — I am ready, and the cadence is ready.
• I am ready; the cadence is not yet — Interior readiness is ahead of cadence.
• The cadence is ready; I am not yet — Cadence is ahead of interior readiness.
• Neither ready yet — The work continues.

Cycles of direction observed.

The methodology reads Progress Signal across one full cadence cycle — that’s the readiness check. Pick the closest read.

• Full cycle observed clearly — One full cycle of cadence has surfaced direction.
• Partial cycle observed — Some direction surfaced; cycle not yet complete.
• Cycle not yet started — Still in earlier Phase.
• Cycle unreadable yet — Direction doesn’t surface as cycles for me yet.

What’s currently surfacing.

The methodology reads patterns, never identifies people. Pick the closest read of recent connections.

How many active connections in the last 30 days?

• None
• 1–3
• 4–10
• 10+

What pattern shows up across them?

• Similar pattern — The connections share recurring shape.
• Varied pattern — Different shapes; no recurring read.
• Recurring friction — A consistent friction surfaces across them.
• No pattern observed yet.

Optional — in one sentence, what do you notice?

Up to 200 characters. The methodology reads themes, not identities.

What’s been hard, recurring, or not settling.

The Compass remembers what surfaces here. Three months from now, six months from now, when the same shape appears, the methodology will surface it.

A sentence or two — what’s the recurring word, feeling, or theme in the work right now?

Up to 500 characters. The methodology reads patterns; the reading is yours to interpret.

Have you read the Playbook?

• Yes — I’ve engaged the Playbook; the methodology vocabulary is familiar.
• Some — I’ve engaged some chapters or framework references.
• Not yet — The methodology is new to me; this is the introduction.

Where the Reading should arrive.

The Reading Brief lands within twenty-four hours — a institutional letterhead PDF holding what the methodology located in your Reading.

One delivery only. No marketing list.