Your dating Intent — and whether your signals match it.
Most people know what they want in the abstract. This assessment diagnoses whether your Intent is clear, and whether the way you engage in dating actually reflects it. Two axes. One honest result.
When you picture your dating life six months from now, what outcome would feel like success?
Anchors to near-term reality rather than aspirational fantasy.
A
I'm in a committed relationship with someone I'm genuinely excited about.
B
I've fallen in love — or I'm well on my way.
C
I've found the person I want to build my life with.
D
I've had meaningful connections without pressure or commitment.
E
I've met interesting people and know myself better.
F
I'm not sure — I'm trying to figure that out.
Question 2 of 8Intent Declaration
Someone you've been talking to asks: 'What are you actually looking for here?' You say:
Tests declaration under mild social pressure.
A
Exactly what I want — something serious and lasting.
B
That I'm looking for the real feeling — falling in love if it happens.
C
That I want to find my person — I'm evaluating accordingly.
D
That I'm not looking for commitment, but I want real connection.
E
Something vague — I don't want to close doors or define things yet.
F
I pause. I'm not sure how to answer honestly.
Question 3 of 8Intent Declaration
Which of these feels most true about what you want — right now, not eventually?
Strips away what the user thinks they should say.
A
I want a lasting, committed partnership and I'm ready for that investment.
B
I want to fall in love. The relationship structure matters less than the feeling.
C
I want to find a spouse. I'm past dating for the sake of it.
D
I want real connection without the weight of commitment.
E
I want to understand myself better before I can answer this honestly.
F
I'm in a transitional phase — I know what I don't want more than what I do.
Question 4 of 8Readiness
How much time and emotional energy are you genuinely prepared to invest in the right connection right now?
Measures real-world readiness vs stated intent.
A
Full investment. If the right person appears, I'm ready.
B
Significant, but with a realistic timeline.
C
Meaningful, but I have real constraints at the moment.
D
Limited — my life isn't structured for this right now.
E
I'm not sure — I keep saying I'm ready but my behavior suggests otherwise.
Question 5 of 8Readiness
A promising connection is developing well. It's moving toward something more serious. How do you respond?
Tests whether readiness matches stated intent when it gets real.
A
This is exactly what I was hoping for. I lean in.
B
Excited but I want to make sure the foundation is real first.
C
Hopeful but cautious — I need a little more time to feel safe.
D
Slightly uneasy — this is faster or deeper than I was expecting.
E
I start creating distance. Something in me resists when it gets serious.
Question 6 of 8Readiness
When you think about the last time you ended or let fade a connection that had real potential — what happened?
Behavioral history is the most reliable predictor of actual readiness.
A
I haven't let a genuine connection fade — I take them seriously.
B
Life got complicated. I regret it and I'm more committed now.
C
It scared me a little. I'm working on that.
D
It's a pattern I recognize and I'm trying to understand it.
E
It happens more than I'd like to admit.
Question 7 of 8Signal Alignment
How would the last person you were talking to describe what you were looking for?
Tests whether stated intent is communicated clearly to others.
A
Exactly what I'd say — we were aligned from the start.
B
Probably accurate — I'm generally clear but not always explicit.
C
Possibly different from what I'd say — I'm not sure I communicated it well.
D
Probably confused — I wasn't clear with them or myself.
E
I don't know. I didn't make it clear.
Question 8 of 8Signal Alignment
Honestly: do your actions in dating — how you message, how you engage, how you follow through — match what you say you want?
Signal alignment is the most diagnostic question in the assessment.
A
Yes. My behavior reflects my intent consistently.
B
Mostly — occasional inconsistency but I'm aware of it.
C
Not as well as I'd like. There's a gap I'm working on.
D
Honestly, no. What I do and what I say I want don't match.
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